It brings me so much joy to know that millions of people around the world have been helped by Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway®. Thank you for all your wonderful feedback. It means so much to me. In the spirit of thanks, I wanted to let this month’s article encourage you to keep using the tools that, hopefully, have made a difference in your life. And if you haven’t yet read the book, let this article spur you on to read it, thus beginning an exciting new journey to love, power and purpose. Yes!!!
EIGHT “FEEL THE FEAR” TIPS FOR BUILDING
CONFIDENCE AND PEACE OF MIND
by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.
There are few of us who escape feelings of fear and self-doubt as we go about our life. Not to worry! We can all learn how to create within us a wonderful sense of confidence and peace of mind as we face all situations in our lives. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway® is filled with very powerful tools to help us push through the fear and self-doubt in order to create a beautiful and satisfying life. Here are just a few of these life-affirming tools…
1. BUILD YOUR SENSE OF TRUST IN YOURSELF. Your first task is to build the trust that whatever happens in your life, you can handle it all. Right now, think of something that is bothering you, and repeat to yourself ten times the important words, “Whatever happens, I’ll handle it.” (My favorite words of self-empowerment!) I predict you will immediately begin to feel a sense of peace within your being. These are important words to have when the “what if’s” come up. “What if I lose my job? I’ll handle it.” “What if I get sick? I’ll handle it.” “What if something happens to my marriage? I’ll handle it.” And what does “I’ll handle it” mean? It means, “I’ll learn from it. I’ll grow from it. I’ll make it a triumph.”
2. LEARN TO LET GO OF OUTCOMES TRUSTING THAT “IT’S ALL HAPPENING PERFECTLY”. “It’s all happening perfectly” is a shortened version of: “Even if things are not going the way I want them to go, I will simply trust that all things happen for a reason and I will be enriched by whatever life brings me. Yes, I will learn and grow from it all. Therefore, it’s all happening perfectly.” Again, repetition of this wonderful affirmation will quiet the negative chatter of the mind. So as you approach your tasks, do your very best…and then, let go of the outcome!
3. STOP COMPLAINING. Complaining is also a big clue that you are not taking responsibility for your experience of life. Instead of seeing life’s obstacles as problems, see them as opportunities, opening the door to growth. When you can control your reactions to whatever life hands you, you have the upper hand. You have a choice: You can create your own misery…or you can create your own sense of growth. That’s power! Every time you have the opportunity to stretch your capacity to handle the world around you, the more powerful and confident you will feel.
4. YES, “FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY.” Often we think, “I’ll do it when I when I am not so afraid.” But in reality, it works the other way round. The “doing it” comes before the fear goes away. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it. Action is the key. Once you have done something you have feared a number of times, the fear of that particular situation goes away. And it’s then time to further expand the comfort zone and move on to the next situation you fear. That’s what growth is all about. And as your confidence builds, it will become easier and easier to “feel the fear and do it anyway!”
5. WHEN MAKING DECISIONS, ADOPT THE “NO-LOSE” PHILOSOPHY. The “no-lose” philosophy tells us that “I can’t lose – regardless of the outcome of the decision I make. I look forward to the opportunities for learning and for growing that either choice gives me.” Remember, if you learn through your “mistakes”, there are no mistakes! In this way, the No-Lose approach to decision-making guarantees that all your decisions will be the right decisions.
6. KNOW THAT YOU COUNT. Know that your presence makes a difference. If you don’t understand this very important fact, act-as-if you do make a difference! Just keep asking yourself the “act-as-if” question in all areas of your life: “What would I be doing if I were really important here?” Make a list and then take action. Soon you will “live into” the realization that you really are important.
7. COMMIT 100% TO ALL AREAS OF YOUR LIFE. That means when you are at work or with your family and friends, or meeting new people, or volunteering in the community…or whatever…give it all you’ve got, holding nothing back. When you commit to giving 100%, your sense of focus, excitement, participation, enjoyment, fulfillment and happiness come alive. What a glorious feeling that is!
8. SAY “THANK YOU” A LOT. Saying “thank you” is a wonderful way to make important connections in all areas of your life. The words “thank you” can also help you appreciate and focus on all the good that is around you, thus helping you release any feelings of anger and resentment you may be holding. You can see why the words “thank you” are two of the most powerful words ever spoken.
These are just a few of the tips in Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway® that can make a difference in your experience of life. The key is to practice…practice…practice. With enough repetition, they will move you from the weakest part of who you are to the best of who you are. When you “live” in the best of who you are, your sense of confidence and peace of mind will grow and grow and grow. So wherever you find yourself at the present time, do the exercises that keep bringing you “Home” to your Higher Self…the best of who you are. Remember there is always more to learn…and as these Higher Self exercises become a bigger and bigger part of your life, life gets better and better and better. That’s a guarantee!!!
From my heart to yours…
Susan Jeffers
Copyright © 2011 Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. All rights reserved.
Adapted from Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway®
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